The gracious man

By |  September 13, 2013

I just came across an article from the May 2013 issue of Esquire, and I have to share it with you.

It’s called “How to be gracious, and why,” by Tom Chiarella, one of the magazine’s best writers. Chiarella hits it out of the park with this one. He writes about eye contact, a firm grip, listening, introducing people, etc.

My favorite excerpt: “Do not pump the hand, unless the other person is insistent on just that. Then pump the hell out their hand.”

I try to be gracious, I really do. I know sometimes I fail. But I still try.

In golf, being gracious is so important. It’s a gentleman’s game. And likewise, it’s a gentleman’s business. It’s not a coincidence that more often than not, it’s the gracious people who are successful in this business. The jerks, the egos, the stiff suits — they might hang around, but it’s usually from job to job.

If I were a college professor, I’d make this short article required reading for every student. I don’t care how smart you are — if you’re not gracious, you don’t stand a chance.

In the new issue of Golfdom, which will be out very soon, we spoke to several gracious men. You’ll see what I mean…

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About the Author: Seth Jones

Seth Jones, a 25-year veteran of the golf industry media, is Editor-in-Chief of Golfdom magazine and Athletic Turf. A graduate of the University of Kansas School of Journalism and Mass Communications, Jones began working for Golf Course Management in 1999 as an intern. In his professional career he has won numerous awards, including a Turf and Ornamental Communicators Association (TOCA) first place general feature writing award for his profile of World Golf Hall of Famer Greg Norman and a TOCA first place photography award for his work covering the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. In his career, Jones has accumulated an impressive list of interviews, including such names as George H.W. Bush, Samuel L. Jackson, Lance Armstrong and Charles Barkley. Jones has also done in-depth interviews with such golfing luminaries as Norman, Gary Player, Nick Price and Lorena Ochoa, to name only a few. Jones is a member of both the Golf Writers Association of America and the Turf and Ornamental Communicators Association. Jones can be reached at

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